Bob Collymore’s Wife Wambui Kamiru had to make out time from her honeymoon to reply those who castigated her marriage with Safaricom CEO over the weekend in an emotional letter addressed to her children.
Mrs Collymore dubbed the letter ‘A letter to my children.’
In the well-articulated letter, Wambui Kamiru tried to change what her children will read from the internet about their mother given that her marriage was widely discussed on social media.
An excerpt from the letter reads:
“My marriage to the man that I love and respect had some interesting effects on the conversations on Twitter and Facebook (these may be obsolete by the time you are reading this). However, for a few days there, lots of Kenyans talked about “tribalism” and some admitted their desire to leave and go to another country because of how unbearable it can sometimes be to live in a society where people first judge you by your “tribal” origin. A lot of people refused to be part of the conversation, arguing that it should no longer matter. These people are the reason why we will still have a country to call home,”
She went on to pray that by the time her children will read her post, the people of the country will have changed their notions and nobody will judge anybody according to the tribe or country they are from.
“I pray that by the time you read this, we Kenyans will have talked so much about this and done so much about it, that you won’t have to first ask, “What tribe is she?”
“Because it won’t matter anymore. Because by that time, we will see each other as Kenyans whether we are of European Origin, Somali Origin, Asian Origin, Kikuyu, Luo, Kamba, Taita, etc. And beyond that, we won’t even be fighting each other on the basis of religious background,”
Speaking on skin colour, the artists referenced that people also questioned whether she is dark skinned or light skinned. But by the time her children would read this, Kenyan world will have changed so much that it shouldn’t matter. Wambui Kamiru however considers the chance of the Kenyan world not changing sooner than she thinks, urging her children to stand out from the rest if the change doesn’t come by the time they are grown and understand that humans are inclined to division and difference.
“In my time, when my wedding was the news, we had a number of beautiful girls who bleached their skin because our society placed value on light skin. These girls remain beautiful and through them, we remember that we have to protect our spirits from humans that love division. These beautiful women only tell us what we sometimes choose to deny, that humans can be superficial and only look at people from the surface of their bodies. It wasn’t because they hated themselves but rather that they understood human nature, both good and bad,”
Mrs Collymore, who has children from her previous marriage expressed her love for her children no matter what they look like:
“To my daughters, I love you with your dark skin, light skin, purple skin, pink skin, peach skin, ashy skin whatever you choose to be and whatever your choose to not be. I love you with what you are, as you are.”
She finally begged her female children not to believe that they are nothing without a man, citing that people called her a poor wretched woman for her maarriage. Wambui Kamiru advised them not to think that a man can be the only source of value but to know that a man can only add value to their lives instead.
“To you my daughters, your husband is not your value. If you make him your value, then you make yourself of less value. You should only add value not seek value from a man, but you can only add value if you are of value. To my son, I pray that whoever you end up spending your life with adds value to your life. I pray that you add value to their life. Your life together.”
The newlywed couple married in an invite-only purple and white affair held at a private residence in Kitisuru. The pictures showing the simple but flamboyant wedding only made it to internet a day later, sparking discussions on who the woman was.
Mrs Collymore is the founder of The Art Space, an independent commercial art gallery situated on Riverside Drive, Nairobi, according to her website.