Nothing is as demeaning, draining, and exhausting to your confidence and self-esteem as being in an emotionally abusive relationship. Far from physical abuse which soars its heinous head in a direct dramatic attack, emotional abuse can be more indirect, stealthy and difficult to track down. In some cases, neither the abuser nor the victim are fully aware it’s happening.
In some cases of emotional abuse seen mostly in an intimate relationship, a man is the abuser and the woman the victim – though several studies show that men and women abuse each other at a rate that is almost equal.
A woman emailed her marriage ordeal to a certain famous blogger, sharing what it is like to go through this kind of abuse.
Her email reads:
“Lots of married women can relate to my story. I am a literate young lady married to a man who does not care about my feelings. I am sure people will wonder if that’s all. But no! That’s not all. I am a woman who like the man I married, I have blood flowing through my vein. I have needs. Emotional needs that are denied me. I beg my husband every day for attention. Still! He acts like am unable to be seen.”
Furthering, the woman said:
“We share same bed yet I feel so lonely and unwanted. I ve begged, cried yet he won’t change. My husband will only want to come close to me only when he desires to ease his immediate sexual want. I can’t remember the last time I got a complement from him. A kiss or hug? Nah lets not even go there. I fall into depression every mow and then. Yet he won’t budge. Our kids are our only point of contact. I am dying slowing. I don’t have who to talk to. My social life? Is extinct all thanks to him. Job? No way!!!! Cos other men will ask me out!!! Pray, tell me how can I not fall for any other man that will show me the slightest care. My reason for writing this? I am dying. Slowly I am loosing my mind. I am always in and out of the hospital for no just cause. Sometimes I think suicide. Yes!!! I have considered and still considering suicide except things will change. And the only reason am still holding on is that I wouldn’t want to leave my kids at the mercy of other women. “
Let this message serve as a wake up call to all genders especially men. Many women are suffering emotional abuse simply because the men in their lives have failed to do the right thing.
Studies have shown that this form of abuse, subject, or expose another people to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. So if you don’t want to be responsible for your partner’s bad situation or misbehaviour, you start paying more attention to that relationship.