Queen Elizabeth’s Cousin, Lord Ivar Mountbatten, has revealed his sexual preference in a recent interview. The Lord is the first member of the royal family to come out as gay.
Being gay and admitting it is very challenging especially for someone of such high status carrying so much expectation.
The great-great-great-grandson of Queen Victoria is a father to three with ex-wife Penelope Thompson. He said he had known from his teens that he was bisexual but ”did not want to go there because there would have been so much grief.”
The 53-year-old said in his exclusive interview to the mail that he was ”driven into the closet by not wanting to come to terms” with who he was. He buried his true identity for years for fear of the reaction and treatment he would receive from friends and family.
”Being a Mountbatten was never the problem, it was the generation into which I was born. When I was growing up, it was known as ‘the love that dare not speak its name’, but what’s amazing now is how far we have all come in terms of acceptance.”
“‘Coming out’” is such a funny phrase, but it’s what I suppose I did in a rather roundabout way, emerging to a place I’m happy to be. I have struggled with my sexuality and in some ways I still do; it has been a real journey to reach this point.”
Lord Ivar revealed James Coyle, who is a cabin services director, as his partner. He called it a chance encounter, explaining how the two met at a skii resort in Switzerland.
The decision to ”come out” received blessing from his three children and ex-wife according the the lord. The whole royal family most especially his life long friend, Prince Edward have showed him support.
Lord Ivar got married in 1994, although he never thought he would get married. He claimed that his wife was aware of his sexual orientation and was understanding.
”I will always be grateful to her. We had a lot of fun, we have three fabulous daughters and I don’t regret any stage of my life.”
His wife Penelope divorced him in 2011 with the official reason being that the couple had drifted apart.
”Penny did not feel sufficiently loved and she wanted more from a husband than she could get from me. Given my sexuality, I was quite surprised she married me in the first place. It was brave. Perhaps she thought she could change me but in the end she realized she couldn’t.”
He added that he was a lot happier now, even though he still is not 100 per cent comfortable with being gay.