Whether it’s talking publicly about it or using self-help strategies, you can take the right steps to stop masturbation.
For many young men, masturbation, self-pleasuring sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, is the only way out of sexual urge. The stimulation may involve objects, sex toys, hands or a combination of these things.
And for some others it is a routine of relieving stress, keeping an open mind, a sleeping pill that offer quality sleep time, a pleasure seeking habit that suddenly becomes an addiction. Yes! You read it right. Masturbation is addictive.
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There is doubt that millions of men in the world who became addicted to the act are still trying to figure out how to stop masturbating. Many young men are drowning in silence because they can’t figure a way to deal with this habit. And the guilt they feel after the act tears many people up on the inside.
While most men – and even women – start the act as adolescents in a quest to discover what they enjoy before embarking on adult sexual relationships, they got caught up with the addiction.
And excessive amount of guidance and information flooding the internet on how to stop masturbation have not been helpful because they are even more confusing than the habit itself. Well, it is good to obtain healing from somebody who was able to deal with the habit.
A reader has requested his story to be shared, and how he rooted the addiction from his consciousness can help you hit the healing track running.
According to the reader, who reached a relationship coach and author, Marriage Built to Last, what started as a joke ended up being an addiction, he says:
“It started as a joke after I finished my high school out of curiosity. Stories, articles and hormones stimuli pressed me on. When I began masturbating, I had no idea I would become addicted nor did I know the consequences it would have in my life.
While in college, a tech-savvy student who owned a phone and laptop, introduced me to porn. At first, I was disgusted but later enticed; it became what I looked forward to watching. I got addicted and from then on, it was what I did every week, eventually every day. I later perfected the act to twice a day. How I enjoyed it!
After college, I continued with the it even when I lived with relatives and did not have any interest in dating, unless it was an opportunity thrown at me for sex. I spent hours alone in the house, in my bedroom, in the bathroom, in bed, every time I had an opportunity to be alone; masturbation was the name of the game! It was my friend, companion and yes I did enjoy it greatly.
Although I enjoyed the process, it left me feeling ashamed, guilty and afraid of being caught. When I attempted to engage with women, I was abusive. It became uncontrollable and I must admit it is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.
When I eventually married, because it is the noble thing to do when a man is of age, I did not stop, my wife could not satisfy my thrust, so the bathroom became my favorite spot and I did it before showering every day. My marriage was on the rocks, my life devastated, my shame and guilt overwhelming. I had nowhere to turn.
When I came to the realisation that my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, I began my healing journey. I would like to share the following tips with you who is struggling;
Furthering he listed the following as the practice that pulled him out of the doldrums of masturbation.
- Don’t spend too much time in the bathroom as long as you bath alone.
- Leave the door open when around your partner or slightly open when you want to make your bathing hour private.
- Communicate when you are in there for accountability. When you discover you are vulnerable, avoid being alone in whatever you do.
- Don’t watch soap operas and movies with sexual content or read romantic books that will stretch your imagination. Read edifying personal development material.
- Avoid watching porn as it murders your self-esteem, self-worth and eventually relationships.
- Keep in mind that your body is a temple of the holy spirit, honor it.
- Have accountability and acknowledge. Seeking help is not a weakness. It is a strength.
- Develop an interest in sports such as running or swimming, or a group sport like soccer, football, basketball, or tennis. Also, any form of exercise will help you relieve tension, feel happier, and to make you focus on your physicality in a positive way.
- Cut down on your solitude by being social as much as you can.
Though roughly 60% of men younger than 25 indulge in this sexual routine, masturbation gives free ticket to embarrassment, stress, anxiety and downright frustration.
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The reader has gotten a complete healing from his addiction because he chose to. You can follow suit. In fact, you owe it to yourself to. Don’t get stuck in denial for too long . Acknowledge the bitter truth and work on it. If you need help, look for it.